I love how the army has night vision goggles that they use sometimes.  It is really quite fascinating that you can see at night with a pair of funny looking glasses on your head.  But sometimes a pair of night vision goggles are what we need to see through all the “stuff” that is going on in our lives.

I’m no expert on the goggles but from what i have seen in the movies, they really do make it easy to move around in total darkness with them on.

Sometimes it needs to get really dark before we are ready to start to see what is going on. I know for myself that was exactly what i had to do.  I would let everything build up and become so much of a mess that it pretty much had to become a blackout for me to address it.  So out came my night vision goggles and i started to be able to see through the darkness.

Now obviously this is just a metaphor for life in general.  I mean you can run around with night vision goggles on if you like, but you do that at your own risk of looking silly.

I spent a lot of time in the dark.  I didn’t want to admit what was going on.  I didn’t want to see how bad my life was turning out and i pretended that everything was ok, when in actual fact it was falling apart by the second.  But i was able to pull out my trusty night goggles and i saw things for how they really were.  So when the daylight came, i could make some better or different choices.

So if you need a pair of night vision goggles, you can borrow mine

I have had a fabulous week.  I really can’t complain at all.  Yes it has been challenging at times and yes i would have liked to get a few more hours sleep than i got, but overall i learnt so much this week.  And made it a truly great week.  When you come out of the week with a lesson you didn’t have at the beginning of the week, you know its good.

It got me thinking about my life and the life of women in general.  Now that can be something that could instantly give you a headache, but I love thinking of those sorts of things.  I got to thinking about our lives and how we as mothers, usually end up putting our dreams on hold to fulfill or support our children, partners, parents, friends, sisters, brothers and everyone else instead of ourselves.

We really end up playing a supporting role in the movie of our life instead of in the lead role.  Now that sucks.  I have been told i am a drama queen and i have no problems with that title, but to think that I don’t get to take center stage in my own performance, it started to annoy me.

So this week, take stock of the role you play in the movie of your life.  Are you in the lead? Do you have a cameo and only come in from scene to scene?  Or is someone else telling you when you can lead and when you can’t?

You get one chance at this drama, don’t waste it standing behind someone else who is hijacking your production.  Before you know it, it will be a final curtain call and then lights out.  Have that moment come with no regrets at all.

Tony Robbins is so brilliant.  The man is close to walking on water.  He really does share some of the most helpful and sensible information I have come across in a long time.  I listened to one of his new recordings on one of his sites and he says that you have to have a plan (which we know) but he kept saying that you need to take massive action.  The one sentence that keeps sticking with me is something like, Never leave the scene of your goals without taking massive action.  Do something right now to take a step towards your goals.  Don’t put it off till later, do it now.

I am one of those people who love to learn and read and listen to information on the net, so i get really easily distracted.  I can have 9 web pages open at once and be listening to several podcasts one after another or listening to little bits of each one.  But after i heard that it really stuck with me.  And it works.  I have written on my blog everyday this week.  For me that’s huge.  But i have also taken action in joining a coaching program. Writing down what i love to do so i can become clear on it.

These may seem like little steps, but little steps give you momentum and they make way for more steps and before you know it, you are running and taking big strides.

So if I had to leave you with something today it would be to take massive action.  Write that blog, send that email, call that contact, follow up that prospect, start that novel or whatever it is that you are passionate about and are currently putting off doing.

It really is such a worthwhile feeling to be able to know at the end of the day, that you have done something to move you one step closer to your dream.

I would love for you to share your dream with me. Pls feel free to email me or leave a comment.

Here’s to your passion and purpose.

When I was younger I had the worst fear of the dark. It was awful.  I could not walk into a dark room, i had to sleep with light coming into my room, sleeping with the door closed was out of the question and any noise i heard from any dark corner would send me screaming to my mother for protection.

As I got older i started to realise that my fear was holding me back.  With light coming into my room, I didn’t really have a good night sleep, and if my door was opened, as soon as someone else in the house started to walk around, it would wake me up.

Now not being as brave as I would have liked to be, I started to take control and make little changes.  I would close my door ever so slightly and over time i closed it a little more and a little more until i was comfortable enough to close it all the way.  I also realised that when you turn a light off the room is dark, but once your eyes adjust, it is not pitch black.

I also took note that mum left her kitchen light on and her door opened, nan left her kitchen light on and her door opened as did my other family members.  Then I realised that it was learned behaviour.  We had grown up with it for so long we just did it, but it added to our fears.

It was a huge accomplishment to get to the place where i sleep with my door closed, blinds down and a sleep mask on.  I am no longer afraid.  I’m so glad I questioned why I was afraid and did something about it.

How long did that fear keep me trapped?  How long did it prevent me from experiencing things?

So my question to you would be, is there anything in your life that is being missed out on because of fear? And what would happen if you questioned it and took small steps to overcome that fear?

You may be surprised by what you achieve.

Sounds like a fair enough question.  You don’t really monitor the thoughts that go through your head.  After all, we have so many of them, how are we suppose to keep tabs on them all.

I suggest you start to because what you think about will come about.  Whether you believe in this stuff or not is not the point.  It happens.  I know so many people who complain all day long, and they say how bad things are, and what is wrong with them, and who has done them wrong, and what is wrong with their jobs.  And you know what, they just get more of what they put their energy on.

Tony Robbins says that what we think about we bring about.  Where your focus goes, your energy flows.  How true is that.

If you don’t believe, try it for a week or so. Just take notice of what you focus on.  Do you think about how bad things are and what is wrong in your life.  Or do you think about how many fabulous things you have and how blessed you are.

Whatever is going on in your life, your thinking is playing a huge role in it.

Think about it

We all know that we would not go on a holiday without a plan, at the very least have some idea of where we want to end up.  Some people are happy to take those mystery flights, but in life, they can get a little scary and old really quickly.

I went to Egypt with just a plan to go to Egypt.  That was my big plan. I did a lot of fun stuff and met some amazing people and although i would not change the experience for the whole world, I know that if i had planned it better i would have gotten so much more done.

So i ask you, what are your plans for 2010?  Do you have a plan or are you just content to cruise along?  There is nothing wrong with cruising along and seeing where the road takes you.  It just gives you a little more control of the outcomes if you have a plan on where you want to go.

How exactly do you figure out where you want to go?  Well thats easy.  You think!! Boy that was simple.  Sure it is.  Think about what you want and where you want to be this time next year.  If you had to fast forward to January 2011, what would you like to be able to say you completed?  What would you like to have put in place?  What major goals would you like to say you have moved closer to?  It’s up to you. Only you know what you want, we’ll worry about the “how” part later, but for now get thinking. Just take a week or so to think about how you would like your life to be.

If you could create your life to design, how would it look?  Be specific, get clear, dream big.  What’s the worst that can happen – that you end up with the same life you have right now.  What you focus on shows up in your life.  So if you don’t have anything to focus on, guess what shows up.

Take a week or so to just take notice of what you want.  What do you enjoy?  What makes your heart smile?  What can you do that makes the hours fly by?  It doesn’t have to be major like brain surgery or saving the world.  It may be reading, or learning, or sitting in the sun, gardening, talking, eating, socialising, playing with your children at the park.  You decide what is right for you.

Once you have that figured out, write it down.  Get those things you love on paper.  It will make sense later on.  Ill be back soon to give you the next step to designing your dream life in 2010.

If you would like to contact me, please drop me an email at karen.demmery@live.com.au  Im happy to chat and be of service to you in any way i can to help you move your dream forward.

Wow what an awesome way to look at life.  Imagine if we went about our daily lives with the thoughts and focus on what we can give to others and how we can serve them, as opposed to what we can get from someone.

I know what its like to make my life all about me.  Its great.  I was the center of my husbands universe.  It was all about me.  What i wanted I got.  Its funny how when you take things for granted they get moved or taken away from you.  Fast forward 3 years.  We are no longer together although we are still the best of friends.

Now i care for my 83 year old nan who fell and broke her hip in October 09 (on my birthday), thanks nan.
She was not able to get around and i moved from my home in Canberra to Dubbo to be her full time carer.  Wow talk about a culture shock.  My son is 21, so having to care for someone who is totally reliant on me for all her basic needs was challenging. Rewarding but boy was it challenging.  I didn’t get to sleep a full night (and i loved my sleep). I had to make sure she had meals ready, medication, showers, rest and love and conversation.

4 months on, i would have to say i have never been happier in my life.  I am still running my business from her house, and i must say now my priorities have changed, as have my business focus, but i love it.  We laugh and talk and I’m introducing her to the internet, which she still doesn’t think is right but who knows, i may end up getting her a facebook page.  I read somewhere that the highest number of recent users of facebook have been women aged 55-65.  Nan may start a new trend by being a leader for the 80-83 year olds.

When you have the chance to give to someone, do it without the expectation of something in return. I promise you that what you do get back will be a million times better and more rewarding than you could have imagined.

Please drop me a line at karen.demmery@live.com.au  i would love to chat with you about where you are in your life and how i can be of service to you.

Enjoy your week.