Focus
I’ve been floating around for a while trying to figure out what i was doing with my life. I wasn’t really unhappy but at the same time, i really didn’t have any passion or purpose to my days. Someone made the comment that i looked like i was disconnected and that got me thinking.
It was true, i had become disconnected. I had lost my focus. I had started to spend so much time on everyone else that i had lost myself in their needs not my own. When i realised it, the light came on and i knew that i was going to be ok and that it won’t take long to refocus and regain my passion and purpose.
It really is so easy to become lost. We are so many things to so many people and before we know it, we are no where in sight. Our needs get forgotten in the daily grind of car pools, lunches, homework, housework, being wife, mother, sister, friend and employee.
But it can be easier than you think to get back on track, for your own sake. Stop, look at where you are and focus on what you need right now. You cannot get what you can’t identify. You have to be able to name it before you claim it.
Start today by focusing on what you need. It doesn’t have to be huge things, sometimes all it takes is for the slightest change to make the biggest difference.
Here’s to your happiness.
January 7th, 2010 at 12:36 pm
You make is sound so easy, but when a spouse (and even children) have learned to expect few needs from “mom,” it’s hard to break the cycle. I wouldn’t describe myself as lacking passion, but I certainly tamed it while my family needed me. Now that I’m initiating my next phase of life, they all seem a bit taken by surprise. I don’t think I lost sight of me – my family did.
January 10th, 2010 at 4:22 am
Hi Kathi
Thanks for your comment. Trust me it was anything but easy. My family become my whole life. I lost myself and my soul purpose was all about making them happy. I’m happy that you were able to easily step into the next phase of your life, I’m sure your family would be very surprised that you are now making life about you. Congrats on that.
As parents we sometimes make a rod for our own backs when we do everything for our kids/husbands/friends/family etc etc. I know when i started to make it all about me, my son thought i had lost my mind and didnt’ love him any more lol. No son i love you, i just love me and am making my life a little more about me and little less bout you. He got used to it. As did everyone else.
Good luck with your passions. Id love to know what they are. Please feel free to contact me and if i can help you out in any way, id love to assist you.