It’s all up to you
We all have bad day. You know the ones, where you wonder what the point is. You wonder why you have to stuggle and suffer. You wonder what the lesson is your meant to learn, if you could get past the sadness to even consider thinking about something as big as the lesson. For some of us, just getting through the day is lesson enough.
It is at those times when you really do learn that it is all about you. It all starts and ends with you. You may friends who comfort you with a few kind words, but they are so caught up with their own lives that even humoring you with comfort is a challenge.
On those days it is important to not look for the higher meaning, the lesson and the higher ground. Be sad, be sorry for yourself, drag yourself around the house, and you know why. Because once you have moved past those feelings, you move to a better place. You move to anger. Not so much as anger at the world, more at anger of needing people to lean on and when they disappoint you, you decide that you can do it. Never underestimate the power of an expremely pissed off woman.
Once you have moved past sadness, its when you start to refocus and get things done. You decide that if it has to be done, you will do it yourself. You know you can’t rely on anyone so you step up to the plate and make the decision to do it yourself. And its great because thats where the power comes from.
You find strength you didnt know you had, you find ideas that you wouldnt have otherwise had, you see options that earlier were not there and you draw on a deep seated, underlying strength that only women really tap into when they get to that really pissed off place.
We are reminded that nice girls dont get angry. Hogwash. Get angry. Hell, get mad. You will get more done and achieve more than ever when your in that state. Once you do reach your goals then you can calm down and be a happy little camper again. Until then, embrace your inner anger goddess. She was put there for a reason. The pissed off princess can be your friend. Embrace her and see what you can achieve.
Yesterday was one such day for me. I was sad, i was feeling down and wondering why I do what i do. Is there any point to it all? Calling on friends who didnt have time because of their own priorities and challenges and i felt unloved. So i sat and thought about it, felt sorry for myself, ate some cookies and moped around. But today i feel fabulous. I have achieved so much so far and that is from the inner princess who is really pissed off. I am angry i didnt take action earlier. I try to be nice, be there for everyone and give to everyone. But you know some days you just have to give to yourself. Stop thinking of everyone else and think about you. Its ok. Its allowed. We women give to everyone else and when we are exhausted and have nothing left, we wonder why we feel so empty. Ah well thats because we are empty. we have nothing left for ourselves. So stop. Make today all about you. Give yourself permission to be selfish. Enjoy.
Tags: anger, empowerment, selfish, women