Your in Control
I acknowledge my elders and my old people, those who have gone before me to clear the path I walk today.
It is said that repetition is the mother of skill. And with that in mind, I thought that I would go back over some of the key areas that I have discussed and what I believe is needed to make progressive change in each of our lives.
Your life in this moment is yours to control, good or bad. It is wonderful however that we always have a choice. You may choose to:
1. Take Responsibility?- As James Allen says, “Circumstance does not make a man, it reveals him to himself’. The more you take responsibility for your life, the more you are able to change it. Responsibility is freedom and empowerment. Become conscious of the thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes that are creating your world. Take responsibility for them and choose those that serve you and your world.?? When you are completely responsible, you can no longer blame anyone for your circumstances. With this comes complete freedom.
2. Gratitude -??Gratitude opens your heart and connects you and aligns your vibration to that which you feel grateful for and as such attracts more of the same into your life. It is a way to give (in its appreciation) and receive (by the opening and expansion of that giving). The more you value and appreciate something, the more there will be to value and appreciate.??
3. Trust?-?Trust takes you towards happy desired outcomes in a magical, effortless way. Trust yourself and your power as a creator. Trust the universe and the gifts it wishes to give and be open. Trust the doors that are opening and those that are closing. Give up control and allow yourself to be carried along the river of trust that will take you to your goals with grace and ease.??
4. Suspend judgment?-?Judging others or yourself lowers and constricts your energy and separates you from love, truth and joy. It is a way of making yourself superior and above another by making them ‘less than’ or ‘wrong’. It can be a way you deny your own self-judgments by projecting your guilt onto another. The more you love and accept yourself, the less you judge others. We all make mistakes. But we have to seek to forgive, love and understand both the one you are tempted to judge and any potential shadows within you that they are reflecting.??.??
5. Honor your emotions?-?Honor your emotions and listen to what they are telling you about what’s going on inside. If they are negative or uncomfortable what thoughts or beliefs are they pointing to that may need changing or aligning? Express and release your feelings rather than deny, repress, control or judge them. This doesn’t mean wallowing in them or giving them lots of attention if they do not serve you (i.e. nip that self-pity in the bud!), nor does it mean venting at someone inappropriately (writing a letter and burning it would be far better, or yell into a pillow). Honor your emotions by accepting them and allowing them to be released.??
6. Know you are loved?-?You are loved totally and unconditionally by the source of creation, whatever that may be for you. There is nothing you need do to win that love and nothing you can do to lose it. Becoming aware of this truth connects you to your inherent value, increases your sense worth and deserving, heals pain of separation and loneliness and opens you to the love that is there for you in every moment.??
7. Forgive yourself and others?-?Forgiveness of self and others is the ultimate mind-body-soul, spirit detox. It liberates you from whole clusters of toxic emotions and sets you free from draining attachments. It can also set you free from feelings of guilt, shame and undeserving that block you from happiness and success. In forgiving another you are also forgiving yourself. It is an incredibly powerful force for healing and transformation and a most gracious gift you can give yourself and another.??
8. Have fun?-?Fun will attract success into your life like iron filings to a magnet. It is the antidote to stress, struggle, worry and seriousness. When you are having fun you are open and sharing of who you are and ride on the current of spontaneity and joy. What brings you fun, happiness and joy? Commit to more of it in all areas of your life. Jump in puddles, play music and sing loudly off key with a hairbrush as your microphone! It is so good for the soul.
9. Take Action – You must take action everyday. It is not enough to know, you must do. With each journey there must be a first step. From that first step comes momentum.
I guarantee if you do one or more of these everyday, you will see a remarkable change in your life and your outlook.
Karen Demmery is a Wirdajuri woman born in Dubbo NSW. Karen is a trainer/facilitator and Australia’s first Aboriginal transformational speaker and coach. Karen is a regular contributor to several Australian and International blog sites. Visit www.karendemmery.com.au or email Karen.demmery@live.com.au