How many times have we pretended to be happy when we are not just to make someone else feel better? How many times have we told someone that nothing is wrong when deep inside we are fuming? Why do we do it? Why can’t we be honest with our feelings and ourselves? Im not happy today so please don’t talk to me. Could you imagine what some people would say or how they would react if you said that. But it doesnt matter that thats how we actually feel. We smile, and listen and pretend to care when we just want to be left alone.

And how much harder is it with parents. OMG, my mother rings me and because i dont try to hide my emotions she can tell in my voice how i am doing. So when she says are you ok and i say no im a bit down and i dont feel like talking to you right now, she has a meltdown. i think the meltdown is more about im not telling her so she can feel better, rather than me telling her what is wrong.

Now as a woman, i get in bad moods, hell that is why we have periods, its our given right. So if i wanna be in a bad mood i will be, those that dont like it dont call me anymore. Im ok with that. Those that love me know how i am and they give me the space i need to deal.

That is why i honor and cherish my friendships so much. I dont have to pretend and be something im not for fear of hurting someones feelings. I can be honest and have my feelings respected. And the same is done in reverse.

So today who can you honor with their requests? Just because someone wants to be left alone or doesnt want to talk, is not a reflection on you being a boring or bad person, it may just be how that other person is feeling. Dont’ take it personally.

Hello and thanks for stopping by.

Well since this is my very first blog on my site i feel like i should be doing a little happy dance or something to celebrate the occasion, instead ill just have a little sip of my favorite drink pepsi max and that should do it.

Im all about empowering women.  I figure if what i say helps just one women then its worth it.  Obviously im hoping to assist more than that, but ill be happy to start somewhere. 

This site is very very new, so please bare with me while i get content added and things like that.  Id like this site to be the place where anyone can come and get information and support about issues that effect women and how positive changes can be made to your life.  I dont pretend to know it all.  I have read that you teach what you are meant to learn, and i guess there is probably some truth in that.  

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