Some days you wonder why it all happens to you.  Don’t you have enough to deal with without the added pressure of surprise stresses that pop up.  Did you really need that flat tyre today of all days?  Did you not tell your children for the 100th time not to spill their milk on the only clean school shirt they have?

Everyone has those days.  I’ve had one of those weeks.  I wondered when it was going to end.  It was like a bad dream i kept living over and over each day with no improvement.  Groundhog day it was not.  Then i realised that my stress level was up to me to maintain.  I was the one who had to decide if i jumped up and down and screamed, or patiently counted to 10 and wondered if in the big sceme of things, was it really worth getting upset over and would it kill me?

Some days all you can do to survive is to let it go.  Don’t hold onto it or it will bring you down. and fast.  I have really have no magic words to help you when you are feeling really shitty, it sucks i know.  But I am feeling your pain and i share it with you.  But tomorrow is a new day and all we have is right now so we might as well make the most of it.

We all have bad day.  You know the ones, where you wonder what the point is.  You wonder why you have to stuggle and suffer.  You wonder what the lesson is your meant to learn, if you could get past the sadness to even consider thinking about something as big as the lesson.  For some of us, just getting through the day is lesson enough.

It is at those times when you really do learn that it is all about you.  It all starts and ends with you.  You may friends who comfort you with a few kind words, but they are so caught up with their own lives that even humoring you with comfort is a challenge.

On those days it is important to not look for the higher meaning, the lesson and the higher ground.  Be sad, be sorry for yourself, drag yourself around the house, and you know why.  Because once you have moved past those feelings, you move to a better place.  You move to anger.  Not so much as anger at the world, more at anger of needing people to lean on and when they disappoint you, you decide that you can do it.  Never underestimate the power of an expremely pissed off woman.

Once you have moved past sadness, its when you start to refocus and get things done.  You decide that if it has to be done, you will do it yourself.  You know you can’t rely on anyone so you step up to the plate and make the decision to do it yourself.  And its great because thats where the power comes from.

You find strength you didnt know you had, you find ideas that you wouldnt have otherwise had, you see options that earlier were not there and you draw on a deep seated, underlying strength that only women really tap into when they get to that really pissed off place.

We are reminded that nice girls dont get angry.  Hogwash.  Get angry. Hell, get mad.  You will get more done and achieve more than ever when your in that state.  Once you do reach your goals then you can calm down and be a happy little camper again. Until then, embrace your inner anger goddess.  She was put there for a reason.  The pissed off princess can be your friend.  Embrace her and see what you can achieve.

Yesterday was one such day for me.  I was sad, i was feeling down and wondering why I do what i do.  Is there any point to it all?  Calling on friends who didnt have time because of their own priorities and challenges and i felt unloved.  So i sat and thought about it, felt sorry for myself, ate some cookies and moped around.  But today i feel fabulous.  I have achieved so much so far and that is from the inner princess who is really pissed off.  I am angry i didnt take action earlier.  I try to be nice, be there for everyone and give to everyone. But you know some days you just have to give to yourself.  Stop thinking of everyone else and think about you. Its ok.  Its allowed. We women give to everyone else and when we are exhausted and have nothing left, we wonder why we feel so empty.  Ah well thats because we are empty.  we have nothing left for ourselves.  So stop.  Make today all about you.  Give yourself permission to be selfish. Enjoy.

When someone hurts you or lets you down, it is easy to stay in anger, resentment and wanting revenge.  We live it over and over again.  We even call in an audience by ringing our friends and family and telling them what this person did to us and how wronged we were.  That only fuels the anger and keeps you stuck.

Now im not saying its easy to forgive and i think the biggest misconception with forgiveness is that by forgiving someone, you are not saying that what they did was ok.  You are saying that you are no longer giving that person power over you and giving them your energy.

Most people think that to forgive means to say it was ok to be hurt.  No its just the opposite.  Because what you did was not ok, i will no longer give you the hold over me by what you have done.  You release the person so that your energy is not consumed with the act.  You are free to go about your day happy, and fulfil your dreams.

You learn from those past events and it makes you a little wiser the next time that situation shows up in your life.  Because whether we like to admit it or not, holding a grudge and being angry only hurts us not anyone else.  SO forgive, release and live your best.  Success is the best revenge after all. And a savvy sassy woman of the world knows that.