You don’t to get permission to be a leader.  You just need to make the decision to lead.  Leadership is not about a big song and dance and running around all ego driven.  True leadership is about the shared vision of a dream and the strength of character of someone to take that dream to the next level.

Is being a leader scary? Absolutely.  Is being out front likely to subject you to criticism? You bet.  Is it going to be worth it in the long run? For sure.  If you are passionate enough to have a dream and want to take your dream to the next level, then leadership is something you have to embrace.

Now you may be thinking, i work for myself and how can i lead?  Well that’s easy.  You can certainly lead yourself.  Who better to lead than you?  You can also lead clients and customers.  Have faith in your abilities.  No one is going to hand you a golden goblet and say we drink to your brilliance.  (well that may be a little dramatic) Make the decision to lead, and others will follow you.

Most people need someone to take them to the next level.  Why not you? Why not now?

Do you ever have days where everyone around you seems to have an opinion about what would be better for you?  Well meaning people who believe that you need constant guidance and assistance to move through you days, but only end up confusing you?

Today was one of those days for me.  I was having the most fabulous morning and after spending some time with my niece, I really was feeling inspired so i went in and pulled out some notes in my book to send to get written up.

Then a relative decided that it was important to discuss where i am at this point in time and talked about what i needed to focus on because i didn’t have a goal.  I thought that was really interesting because i have had the same goal for about 10 years.  However, if you don’t ask me what my goal is, you probably wouldnt know what it is.

I had to stop myself from second guessing myself and my choices.  It really took me looking at the situation from their angle to see why they may think that.  I didn’t take it personally, I know that not everyone ‘gets’ what i do.  My mother will never understand why i spend so much time on that stupid computer.  That’s just her though.

So i thought about it and i realised that we all get tested from time to time.  How do you know if your on the right track if someone doesn’t question you or give you the opportunity to reaffirm your path.  This doesn’t have to be a reaffirming by doing a big song and dance.  That’s not everyone’s style.  It maybe the quiet reassurance you need to give yourself that you are doing what you love and that you are where you are meant to be.

Do not take to heart every question you get, or every off handed comment, trust me, there will be many of those along your journey.  If your going to give up on your dream every time someone makes a comment, its not a very strong dream at all.

So trust yourself.  You know what is right for you. You don’t have to have the approval of the masses, you just need to have given yourself approval to believe, dream and achieve.

To your success.
K

I’ve been floating around for a while trying to figure out what i was doing with my life.  I wasn’t really unhappy but at the same time, i really didn’t have any passion or purpose to my days.  Someone made the comment that i looked like i was disconnected and that got me thinking.

It was true, i had become disconnected.  I had lost my focus.  I had started to spend so much time on everyone else that i had lost myself in their needs not my own.  When i realised it, the light came on and i knew that i was going to be ok and that it won’t take long to refocus and regain my passion and purpose.

It really is so easy to become lost.  We are so many things to so many people and before we know it, we are no where in sight.  Our needs get forgotten in the daily grind of car pools, lunches, homework, housework, being wife, mother, sister, friend and employee.

But it can be easier than you think to get back on track, for your own sake.  Stop, look at where you are and focus on what you need right now.  You cannot get what you can’t identify.  You have to be able to name it before you claim it.

Start today by focusing on what you need. It doesn’t have to be huge things, sometimes all it takes is for the slightest change to make the biggest difference.

Here’s to your happiness.

Ah yes we know it, we really do. We understand that some sort of action is better than no action at all. If that is the case, then why don’t we up and take action? Is it fear? If so of what? What is the worst possible thing that could happen from taking action? Maybe we might make a mistake, maybe we might not be as successful as we would like, maybe, just maybe, we might be successful.

You dont need to know everything about everything to get started on your dreams, visions or projects. You could start by asking people who do know and work from there. Nothing is going to change if something doesnt change and that change must come from you.

Now i feel your pain, i really do. I am the queen of thinking of great ideas and business plans, but following through on action is something i have to really push myself with. Maybe i have a slight case of ADHD and my attention span is not as it could be. Im not sure, what i am sure of is that some days, it takes all the effort i can muster to get moving on my business tasks. But the funny thing is that once i start, i always feel better. Once i have completed a task, i feel on top of the world. I start small, baby steps. You have to force yourself sometimes. Its a habit.

Start today by taking baby steps and do something. trust me you will feel so much better for it. Email me and let me know how it goes.

We all have bad day.  You know the ones, where you wonder what the point is.  You wonder why you have to stuggle and suffer.  You wonder what the lesson is your meant to learn, if you could get past the sadness to even consider thinking about something as big as the lesson.  For some of us, just getting through the day is lesson enough.

It is at those times when you really do learn that it is all about you.  It all starts and ends with you.  You may friends who comfort you with a few kind words, but they are so caught up with their own lives that even humoring you with comfort is a challenge.

On those days it is important to not look for the higher meaning, the lesson and the higher ground.  Be sad, be sorry for yourself, drag yourself around the house, and you know why.  Because once you have moved past those feelings, you move to a better place.  You move to anger.  Not so much as anger at the world, more at anger of needing people to lean on and when they disappoint you, you decide that you can do it.  Never underestimate the power of an expremely pissed off woman.

Once you have moved past sadness, its when you start to refocus and get things done.  You decide that if it has to be done, you will do it yourself.  You know you can’t rely on anyone so you step up to the plate and make the decision to do it yourself.  And its great because thats where the power comes from.

You find strength you didnt know you had, you find ideas that you wouldnt have otherwise had, you see options that earlier were not there and you draw on a deep seated, underlying strength that only women really tap into when they get to that really pissed off place.

We are reminded that nice girls dont get angry.  Hogwash.  Get angry. Hell, get mad.  You will get more done and achieve more than ever when your in that state.  Once you do reach your goals then you can calm down and be a happy little camper again. Until then, embrace your inner anger goddess.  She was put there for a reason.  The pissed off princess can be your friend.  Embrace her and see what you can achieve.

Yesterday was one such day for me.  I was sad, i was feeling down and wondering why I do what i do.  Is there any point to it all?  Calling on friends who didnt have time because of their own priorities and challenges and i felt unloved.  So i sat and thought about it, felt sorry for myself, ate some cookies and moped around.  But today i feel fabulous.  I have achieved so much so far and that is from the inner princess who is really pissed off.  I am angry i didnt take action earlier.  I try to be nice, be there for everyone and give to everyone. But you know some days you just have to give to yourself.  Stop thinking of everyone else and think about you. Its ok.  Its allowed. We women give to everyone else and when we are exhausted and have nothing left, we wonder why we feel so empty.  Ah well thats because we are empty.  we have nothing left for ourselves.  So stop.  Make today all about you.  Give yourself permission to be selfish. Enjoy.

I aksed women recently what they would like to change in their lives and why?  The answer i got were varied but alll had an underlying theme.  The common things were: having more time for themselves; balancing work/life responsibilities; finding a fulfilling and loving relationship and enjoying going to and being at work.

What i found that was interesting is that all of these issues could easily be overcome with a couple of changes.  The first being taking complete and absolute responsibility for the situations women found themselves in.  It is only when we own our stuff can we change it.  Most women wanted more time to exercise, have down time and stress free environments.  That got me wondering about how that would be achieved.

Well one would be saying NO.  Thank you for the offer but at this time i cannot or will not take on anymore tasks or activities.  This puts you in the drivers seat of your life.  It’s about having clear and well defined boundaries.

The other thing you can do is to make a commitment that no matter what, you will do what you need to or want to do.  If you want to exercise, you make the commitment that no matter what, you will get up and go for a walk for 30 minutes each morning.  When you take the option of doing it out of the picture, it becomes something that you do not put aside.

Most women said they did not have enough time for themselves.  The interesting thing is that if a loved one got sick and these women had to take a week off work to care for their spouse, child or immediate family member, they would find the time.  Its all about the priority you place on the situation.  Exercising may not be as important to you as caring for a sick child, but if you know your health is failing and that you are getting sicker and sicker, at some point you must become the priority.

So this week, make the commitment to do 1 thing each day that gets you closer to your goal. If its losing weight. Make the commitment to exercise everyday or 1 week.  You will feel better, have more energy, be able to think clearer, and generally be more fun to be around.

Make the commitment. Stick to it. Schedule it in.  Take responsibility for your life.

Let me know how you go with it.

Hello and thanks for stopping by.

Well since this is my very first blog on my site i feel like i should be doing a little happy dance or something to celebrate the occasion, instead ill just have a little sip of my favorite drink pepsi max and that should do it.

Im all about empowering women.  I figure if what i say helps just one women then its worth it.  Obviously im hoping to assist more than that, but ill be happy to start somewhere. 

This site is very very new, so please bare with me while i get content added and things like that.  Id like this site to be the place where anyone can come and get information and support about issues that effect women and how positive changes can be made to your life.  I dont pretend to know it all.  I have read that you teach what you are meant to learn, and i guess there is probably some truth in that.  

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